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Lonely road: Why school is hell for transgender pupils

The Independent, 24 April 2008

When 'Lauren' decided she wanted to be recognised as a girl, life at school became a nightmare. Should teachers be doing more for transgender pupils?

The day that Lauren Quick, 11, started at the mixed comprehensive in her Yorkshire home town, an older lad stormed into her classroom at break, shouting, "Oi, there's a tranny in here – show me where it is!"

Suddenly, Lauren, who had been insisting from the age of three that she had "a girl brain in a boy's body", was surrounded. She was distraught and, weeks later, made her first attempt to kill herself. Two further attempts followed in the next five months – the last in the school lavatories.

Her life, says mother Jan, had become a living nightmare. Every day, she faced shouts of "man beast" and "tranny" from pupils, as well as calls to "get your **** out" – even, on one occasion, when she was being escorted by a teacher. Lauren's response was to self-harm on a regular basis.

The town's police hate crimes unit became involved three times after several incidents, including one pupil spitting in her face and a mother who was picking up offspring shouting, "You f****** tranny", through the car window as Lauren walked home from school. Lauren was more often absent than in school.

Although the school supported Lauren's desire to be accepted as a girl, and made determined efforts to stamp out the bullying – taking the perpetrator of each incident aside to explain Lauren's circumstances – one day, everything came to a head. Lauren was ambushed on the way home by older boys, who tried to remove her skirt in an attempt to see her genitals.

Lauren refused point-blank to return to school. Jan obtained a transfer for her to a nearby high school, which had already successfully dealt with a transgender pupil. Lauren lasted only a few weeks. Now 14, she is being educated three days a week in a unit for long-term ill and severely bullied pupils. She would like to go back to school, but she and her mother doubt that it will ever be possible.

"There are no easy answers, but the school was just handling it on the hoof," says Jan. "There was no attempt to plan anything. The school was totally unprepared for dealing with a kid like Lauren."

The deputy head of that school, who still speaks to Lauren on the phone occasionally, agrees. "We were dealing with things that we could not possibly ever have expected. Who teaches you how to deal with a 13-year-old who wants to be a girl, but is having erections in class? We were dealing with each incident as it came up, but perhaps we should have tackled it as a school."

Lauren's story reflects the difficulties experienced by British schools when faced with a pupil who does not fit neatly in to the "boy" or "girl" box. It's not just confusion about personal pronouns, either – even the most mundane problems, such as which lavatories a trans pupil should use and where they change for PE, become major issues.

In Lauren's case, she was not allowed to use the girls' loos, and felt humiliated at having to use the disabled ones, particularly as they were kept locked and she had to ask for the key.

Looking at her now, making some toast in the family kitchen, she is like any other gangly 14-year-old girl with her dyed, shoulder-length hair, denim skirt and leggings. But she has male genitalia and, by British law, must wait until she is 16 to have medical treatment to give her the body she feels was denied her at birth.

According to figures provided by the Gender Identity Research and Education Service (Gires), one in 1,000 school children suffer from gender dysphoria – roughly one pupil for every high school – though not all of them will seek gender reassignment surgery.

Lauren is typical in that she has been the target of severe bullying. According to research by Gires and the transgender pressure group Press For Change, more transgender pupils report being bullied than gay pupils, who themselves report rates of name-calling of 82 per cent. Most fail to complete their school education, although they catch up later and gain more than the national average number of qualifications.

More seriously, around half of all transgender teenagers will make a suicide attempt before they turn 20. In February, 10-year-old Cameron McWilliams was found hanged in Doncaster. The inquest revealed he had expressed a desire to be a girl.

In this highly volatile atmosphere, schools must somehow act in the best interests of their most vulnerable pupils. As Bernard Reed, trustee of Gires, says: "Schools think it is so rare that they don't take it seriously, but when a trans child comes into a school, the effect can be seismic."

The Home Office acknowledges the problem of transphobic bullying and has commissioned Gires to produce information for schools explaining gender variance, its medical, legal and equality aspects, which will be displayed in the Crime Reduction section of the Home Office website.

Press for Change has just produced a "toolkit" for further education and sixth form colleges, consisting of 21 five-minute lessons aimed at leaders of education institutions. It was commissioned by the Learning and Education Council, the trade union Unison and the Centre for Excellence in Leadership.

As the deputy head at Lauren's former school says: "We had nothing to help us, but when Lauren had been at school for a while we began getting calls from teachers at other school asking for advice with similar situations."

Not all transgender pupils' school experiences are negative, however. When Pippa James explained at a parents' evening that the reason her 15-year-old son Tim's grades had plummeted was because of his despair following his recent declaration that he wanted to be a girl, the school pulled around to protect the bright teenager.

Although Pippa and her husband offered to remove Tim, the year head backed his desire to "transition" to become "Becky" over a school holiday, declaring that they knew him and could "ensure his safety".

Shortly after, Tim tried to hang himself. Following a number of meetings between his parents and the school, Tim was told to stay home for a day while groups of pupils in his year in the mixed comprehensive were told by well-briefed teachers what was happening to Tim, what to expect and that bullying would not be tolerated.

Curious pupils asked questions, but accepted it and simply viewed him as the fastest runner in their year. According to the family and the school, not a single case of bullying against Tim was reported – even when he came back with long hair and female clothes.

Becky, now 19 and a talented artist, has undergone gender reassignment surgery in Thailand paid for by her parents, and is intending to go to art school.

As Pippa says: "In terms of school, it was a wonderfully positive experience. Becky's life, apart from school at the time, was terrible and she was in utter despair. If school had not dealt with her kindly and been accepting, it would have been the last straw and she would have ended it all."

The despair to which Pippa alludes is because of the battles that Becky, Lauren and all young trans teenagers in the UK face in obtaining medical help for the outward signs of puberty, until they make a decision about gender reassignment.

England has only one clinic – at London's Tavistock and Portman Trust – which offers advice on gender dysphoria to young people. In Britain, the reversible use of drugs is banned before the age of 16 – although other EU countries and the US permit their use.

Jan Quick and the James family have re-mortgaged their homes to pay for their children's treatment. Lauren goes twice a year to Boston, in the United States, for puberty blockers, having been turned down by the Tavistock.

Pushing for reform of UK medical protocols is a major focus for Press For Change, but the organisation is also disturbed by the lack of protection for trans pupils in school. Goods and services regulations just introduced by the Government's Equalities Office do not address transphobic harassment in schools as they specifically exclude education.

"Individual schools now could choose not to educate a child, not to allow them to sing in a choir or to go on a school trip," says Professor Stephen Whittle, an equalities lawyer and a professor at Manchester Metropolitan University, who started out female. "The only protection for kids will be under education law – protecting the right to education as such, but not the nature of it."

Many campaigners for transgender equality are pinning their hopes on the Single Equality Bill, which is expected next year. The Government has been consulting on it and will report in the summer. One of the questions is whether the Bill should extend to schools.

The Equality and Human Rights Commission is calling for explicit protection for transgender children in an equality Act, and extension of the public sector duty to promote equality for transgender people.

"All children have the right to be educated in a fair and tolerant environment, free from bullying." said a commission spokesperson. "At the moment, a very vulnerable group of young people are not adequately protected by the law."

The names of transgender young people and their families have been changed to protect them

Transgender in history – and today

Elagabalus, who reigned as Roman Emperor of the Severan dynasty from 218-222, offered vast sums of money to any physician who could provide him with female genitalia.

Jennie Hodgers was born in County Louth, in Ireland, around 1843, but enlisted as a private in the Illinois Infantry Regiment under the name of Albert Cashier. She was accepted as a male and fought 40 battles on the Unionist side under Ulysses Grant.

Gires has prepared a booklet for the Department of Health, "Gender variance in children and young people: Answering families' questions", which is available in printed form as well as online (

Parents, teachers and teenagers affected by transgender issues can find more information on the Mermaids website at

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Coping With Being Bullied

BBC Learning Zone, PSHE Video

A teenage boy called Joe is interviewed by BBC radio presenter Aled Haydn Jones. He describes his experiences of bullying after he came out as bisexual and how he has dealt with it. The radio show is fictional but the caller and his experiences are real. Aled interviews child psychologist Dr Angharad Rudkin about bullying among teenagers and its impact on their mental health and wellbeing

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What to do if you are being bullied

Stonewall Youth

If you are experiencing homophobic bullying then it's really important that you know there are things that you can to address it and that you don't have to just put up with it. Here are some steps that we suggest you could take. If you want further help then please contact our Info Service:

1. Talk to someone

If possible talk to someone who has the power to stop it, such as a teacher or youth worker if you are being bullied at a youth group. They should take your concerns seriously and help you do something about the bullying. If you don't feel there is a teacher you can talk to, then talk to someone who will understand such as a friend or trusted family member. Even if they can't stop it, they might be able to help you to talk to someone who can. Speaking to them might give you the courage to speak to a teacher at a later time

2. Join a local LGBT youth group

Unfortunately, you are not likely to be the only young person facing bullying. Meeting with other LGBT young people could help you feel less alone and they might have some ideas about what you could do. Local LGBT youth groups have youth workers and they might be able to help you. Youth groups are also a great way to make some friends and have some fun. Our Info Bank lists some groups for LGBT young people or you email them ( and they may be able to help you track down a group close to you. If you belong to a group that isn't our website make sure you let us know about it. That way we can keep you up-to-date with the work we're doing.

3. Make sure you are taken seriously

If you decide to speak to someone about what is happening- well done! A teacher is more able to help if you tell them what's going on and good teachers want to help all pupils to enjoy school. If you feel that they aren't taking you seriously then speak to someone else. You could try a different teacher and if you still feel that you're not getting the support you need then try approaching your headteacher or writing them a letter. If you feel that they are not listening, either approach your school board of governors. If you still feel you're not getting anywhere then it could be time to look outside of school and approach your local authority. If you may want some advice and help with doing this, contact our Info Service:

4. Join the Stonewall Youth Volunteering Programme

Many of our Youth Volunteers join the programme because they are experiencing homophobic bullying, or have seen others experience bullying, at their school, college or university. Some used to experience bullying. They want to make it clear that bullying is not acceptable and also help ensure that other students don't have the same experiences that they did. Click here for more information about the programme

Please click on the link to find out about volunteering

Whatever you do about the bullying- do something! You don't have to live with it. There are lots of people who will want to help you, even if they are not at your school. If you need help don't hesitate to contact us: email or call us on 08000 502020 and we can give you advice ourselves or point you in the direction of somewhere else that can.




LGF Enough Is Enough Action Against Homophobia / Safer Schools Campaign

Lesbian & Gay Foundation

Homophobic bullying is still a major issue in UK schools. Last year, research carried out by the Equality & Human Rights Commission (EHRC) highlighted that two thirds of lesbian, gay, and bisexual young people in England report being bullied. Those that report bullying perform 15% worse at GCSE.

The same research found that only 1 in 6 English secondary school teachers believe that their school is very active in promoting respect for lesbian, gay and bisexual students.

The LGF's Enough is Enough! Action Against Homophobia campaign is determined to encourage schools to take action – we want every school to be challenging homophobia, and talking about lesbian, gay and bisexual people, issues and relationships to promote understanding.

That's why we aimed to get as many new Enough is Enough! Safer Schools Packs in to UK schools by May 17th 2011 - International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia

Safer School Packs include:

  • the Enough is Enough! Action Against Homophobia PowerPoint and notes for assemblies, lessons and presentations
  • the campaign DVD (Starring Coronation Street's Antony Cotton and featuring Sir Ian McKellen)
  • Support for teachers (including responsibilities, legislation, practical advice)
  • Posters
  • Stickers & balloons
  • Resources
  • Signposting and support

The Packs are inspired by the Gay Lesbian Straight Education Network (GLSEN) Safe Space Kits in America. And once we post the packs out, we'll be following up with the schools to find out how they are using the packs, and then we'll contact you to let you know about the difference your donation is making.

All students – regardless of sexual orientation – have the right to learn and achieve in a safe and welcoming environment.

Maybe you were lucky enough to have this kind of education and know how valuable it can be and want others to experience it too, or maybe you didn't and want to ensure that this and the next generation of lesbian, gay and bisexual young people learn in a supportive and more welcoming environment.

Please donate to buy a Safer Schools Pack, to make sure young people have the opportunity to access to the right kind of education and support.

Donate to buy a Safer Schools Pack here, or to find out more visit

ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! ACTION AGAINST HOMOPHOBIA. Homophobia is still a daily reality for lesbian, gay and bisexual people and their family and friends - on the street, at school, at work and where we live. It has never been more important to come together and highlight that homophobia is unacceptable and needs to stop. Enough is Enough! Action Against Homophobia - Join the movement to take action against homophobia at

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